|At the very least, Tori Spelling's |
post-cesarean complications could
be an important vehicle for raising
awareness about risks of c-section and
the importance of adequate
I don't know about Tori and her marriage, don't watch her show, or know what her motivations are, but it sounds like she wants a large family. She is in the minority, as more women are stopping after two children and therefore are not often exposed to the risks of what that number of c-sections can do to the body. Whether it's one, two or four or more, it always carries risks - but obviously with four surgeries under your belt you're going to be exposed to more risk than someone who's only had two. It's unclear, though, whether women really 'get' why this is important to understand - because many of them spend much time digging Spelling for 'not using birth control' (even though someone commented that yes, she was using it, and yes, it did fail). Some speculate that she did initially consider a VBAC, but decided against it when her first and second births were also close together (which can bring additional risk).
Instead of bashing her for having lots of kids, not 'getting fixed,' etc. etc. it should make us question why she wasn't encouraged to have a VBAC after her first birth, especially if she wanted more children. Although close births do pose a unique set of complications when considering VBAC, this is probably one case where why her first cesarean occurred is important to know: did she have a medical condition? Was she 'too posh to push' or did she simply want to schedule the birth? Who knows. Preventing the first scar is key, but sometimes it's not that easy, especially if you aren't sure how many kids you want. It's hard to gear up for a future birth when you're barely finished with the first one, but knowing before you get that uterine scar just how it could impact future births is very important.
After the birth of her first son, Liam, Tori said this:
"I had a c-section...One of the biggest misconceptions is that celebrities have C-sections because it's easier. If I had a choice, I would not have. The recovery is much worse."To me, it almost sounds like her doctor was a "once a cesarean, always a cesarean" type of person. And while I'm sure there is some strong-arming going on when it comes to pleasing a celebrity client, these women are no different than we are: if a doctor tells you a VBAC is "unsafe, dangerous, and your uterus will shatter" then you are just as prone to believe it's true as any of us might be.
I'll never forget it: that's what Anna Nicole Smith reported that her doctor told her before the birth of her daughter, born by scheduled cesarean. That her "uterus would shatter," as if it's made of glass, as if one tiny contraction could forcibly blow the entire thing up like a bomb. I was so sad for her, because she naively believed him, much like any of us probably would have.
Some articles surrounding Spelling's complications ask an important question: are doctors doing enough to inform patients about the risks of cesareans? I was happy to see that headline, because I argue wholeheartedly that they're not. If you were scheduled for brain or open heart surgery, would a doctor simply tell you, "Everything will be fine, trust me! It's totally safe!" and walk away without so much as an explanation of the procedure? Highly doubtful.
I know my own physician, whom I saw for two of my three pregnancies, definitely did not. I still remember clearly our conversation prior to the birth of my first baby, who was breech: to his credit, he didn't schedule the cesarean until the week of my due date, but never went over any risks - if he did, I probably would have left the office that day in a panic instead of nervous excitement about the arrival of my child. Thankfully I did go into labor days before the surgery, which meant my baby (and most importantly, my body) experienced labor on its own, which is critical for future births. Yet I had no idea just how important that was at the time, because I was naive and very uninformed. No thanks to him.
When I became pregnant with my second child, my doctor gave me a 'choice' of what I wanted to do: the cesarean route, which I was already familiar with and had survived (isn't that a benchmark of just how casual our approach is to it?) or a VBAC, then proceeded to tell me that it could be dangerous and he'd had two women rupture on him. I decided the word 'rupture' sounded very unpleasant and I wasn't even going to consider it for a moment. Duh. What an idiot I was!
As my pregnancy progressed, I decided maybe having a VBAC wasn't such a bad idea. My primary motivation for choosing one was a) my baby wasn't breech and b) I wanted to avoid a potentially horrific recovery like I had with the first. I was terrified to tell him my intentions, because I had just three weeks until my due date. I stammered my way through our office visit, my husband at my side, while he proceeded to again tell me just how dangerous VBACs were and "I have one patient who's on her fifth cesarean!" I will never forget those words. That's when I asked him, "Well, what about this? That? Or this?" He had to concede that yes, those were definite risks to multiple cesareans. But reluctantly.
I know I'm not the only one. I've read so many accounts from near-panicked women that are on the eve of their inductions: "What should I expect? What do they do? Is this really necessary?" Something is clearly wrong with this picture. Either we trust our doctors too much, feel completely incapable of asking them questions, or they are completely inept at adequately informing their patients of risks and benefits to procedures. It shouldn't be a "don't ask, don't tell" policy; even if the patient says she has no questions, you should probably go ahead and tell her anyway. If she doesn't even know what to ask, then she's probably not even thinking about what could happen, what should happen, or what doesn't even need to happen.
I asked people on Facebook if they were induced or had cesareans, did their doctor cover the risks of the procedure? Of those that answered, all of them said "no."
It doesn't help that many doctors will discourage you from 'reading too much.' The internet be damned, because that means you're a religious follower of Ricki Lake and she only wants women to give birth in bathtubs. *eyeroll* Here, here's a copy of What to Expect When You're Expecting, now please - I don't have time to go over all the risks with you because there are none and it's perfectly safe so have a nice day. Does that sound like informed consent to you? Me neither.
So it's not a wonder Tori Spelling has had her fourth cesarean, and I don't think she should be blamed for it, either. Not because she's "old," or "a breeder," or any of those things. Stop blaming the person who just trusted her doctor, as you often blindly tell her she should. Start blaming the people who knowingly put vulnerable, often inadequately informed people at risk. Stop enabling the very system that allows this to happen.